Friday, February 19, 2010

All the difference in the world

About 8 months ago I felt an intense desire to be a part of something bigger.

I craved depth in relationships and needed more godly friendships in my life.
After much thought and a lot of 
"are you sure, God. I don't think I will be able to do this"
"Just do it, Missy" conversations with my Jesus, I started a home study and invited a few of my closest friends, some promising acquaintances and some strangers to start in a journey of growth through friendship and Bible study. 

YAY! I am so glad I listened to God. 
Holy Cow. 
Mondays are never ever dreaded again to me!

Through silly ice breaker games and topical questions we have gone from superficial and guarded to deep and vulnerable. What a transformation I have seen in so many of these girls and in my own heart!

Don't friends make all of the difference in the world while getting through your day? 
Don't friends make all of the difference in the world when you have a crisis?
"Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep." 
Don't friends make all the difference in the world when you have someone to rejoice with you about the blessings that are given?

 Don't friends make all of the difference in the world when you struggle and need a prayer or a hand to help?
"Let love of the brethren continue.  Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by this some have entertained angels without knowing it."

The answer is... 
a thousand times, YES!

Two are better than one, 

because they have a good return for their work:

If one falls down, 
his friend can help him up. 
But pity the man who falls 
and has no one to help him up!

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

I venture to say  10 -12 are better than one too (wink, wink)

My life has been enriched these past few months. It's not a temporary  or convenient social circle that is elite or exclusive.
It's a web of friendship that is proving to be quite  strong and intricate. Each woman contributing to the strength of our group, adding beautiful perspectives,  cherished encouragement, and faithful support to each other. There are a few quiet and gentle spirits in our group and there are a few bolder women. We all are learning from each other.
While it may take a long while to grow an old friend, I think we are doing pretty well at making the most of each Monday together. I'm in this for the long-haul!

I have seen girls serve when it wasn't convenient, give when it wasn't affordable, sacrifice when it wasn't easy and grow when the enemy was pressing them down on every side. Our God is wonderful. That's all there is to it. 

We are 6 weeks into "A Woman After God's Own Heart" by Elizabeth George and it's kicking our butts into high gear! Wow.
Together we are learning to be the women God designed each of us to be. We are learning to embrace our differences and  lay our insecurities at His feet. Serving our husband's and families to better serve our God...TOGETHER.
  We are learning that God is ready to show us and provide "exceedingly abundantly above all that we [dare] to think or ask."  The list of answered prayer and praises continues to grow! 

So, while friendships can sometimes be awkward and tricky, I am finding that the awkward and tricky phase is definitely worth getting past to finding the deep connection that is true friendship. 

I am so grateful to have deepened my friendships and to now have other women who are passionately pursuing their God along side of me. To lift my arms when I am tired, to urge me to finish the race when I don't see the end in site, to share in my joy and to just laugh and be silly with.

(girls, I'd say we are all headed to level 5   :o )

And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit. For love that seeks aught but the disclosure of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth: and only the unprofitable is caught.

And let your best be for your friend. If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also. For what is your friend that you should seek him with hours to kill? Seek him always with hours to live. For it is his to fill your need, but not your emptiness. And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed."
-The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran

1 comment:

  1. Awesomeness :-) I loved reading this! I feel the same way about my girl friendships and small group. It is pure GOODNESS to do life together with other women who love each other, pray for each other, serve together and love Jesus together! There really is nothing better! I'm so happy that you are doing this! Lots of love!
    Kim :-)